Pseudo-love

The definition of love is shifting.


Calling something wrong is now the only thing that's really wrong.
Accountability is judgmental.
Discipline is mean.

Unconditional acceptance with no mention of the harm that we do to ourselves is the new definition of love. 

This is not love.
This is actually more like hate.

The Bible shows us that this kind of love is a big part of how God loves us.
God disciplines us. He teaches us. He prunes us. He molds us.

All of those things have to do with us changing. 

God cares about us enough not to let us stay the same.  That is love.

Love sacrifices. Love suffers. It gives itself away.
Love bears burdens, speaks truth and faces reality.

It's not that there isn't genuine affection or warmth to love.  It's not that acceptance isn't a part of love.  Those are all very real aspects.

Love wants whats best for us according to God's definition of best. To move away from God's best is to move toward death.

The new definition of love is selfish, the "new love" says... "I don't care enough about you to be uncomfortable or to allow you to hurt me in my efforts to help.  I don't care enough about you to risk offending you. Oh, and by the way, please stay out of my business as well."

This love basically says, "live and let die" (thanks Axle... opps, I mean Paul MacCartney)...then again, maybe it's not that new afterall.

This pseudo-love must be universally rejected or it will erode our lives, our marriages, friendships and ultimately our society.

I am so thankful to have people in my life that love me enough to accept and yet still challenge me to grow.  Sometimes it's hard to be loved...but love helps me be who I'm made to be.  

For a starting place on real love, check out 1 Corinthians 13, Hebrew 3:12-15 & 12:4-12

Ryan